All Gods, planets, asteroids & stars of our universe, are in eternal love & union with their counterparts. Radha Krishna, Shiv Shakti, Ram Sita, The Sun & The Moon, Venus & mars, Jupiter & Juno, and the list goes on. Then why is it that we on the human plane either end up in failed or loveless relationships? The logical mind will say, God’s a myth, the human reality is the only reality; and the dreaming heart will say because it’s God, the human is incapable of the experiences of God. Both are an avoidance of the truth but the latter is at least entertaining the idea of the existence of eternal love. There is some hope here. Really, where else is God if not everywhere? What else is God if not a consciousness? How else to experience God, if not in Love? In fact God is an attribute, an experience of Love itself. And … Love is sincere, but it is not serious. How can it be? Love is a play of the inner child, a dance of innocence. The child is innocent, knows nothing of Love and therefore it can be fully enjoyed, totally experienced. Love blossoms in the unconditional.
All you good girls out there, me included,love the bad boy but we want them to be the good boy just for us. All you bad boys out there, love the good girl but you want her to be the bad girl just for you. Two things can be seen here – first, it is a need of the ego to see the other change just for us; and second, we want it both, the good & the bad. We are conditioned to choose, not accept. As rightly said in the series ‘Dark’, (on a tangent, one of my favourites in recent times) ‘a choice for something, is a choice against something too’; in other words to choose one is to suppress the other. We are in a constant fight with our own energy, so we are in a constant fight with life. The human experience is one of duality and God consciousness is the transcendence of all dualities. To transcend we must accept duality first. The Good bad boy is the New Man; The Bad good girl is the New Woman. The stars wouldn’t sparkle if it weren’t for the canvas of the dark sky.
Since time immemorial, The Woman has been depicted in search for or placed beside, her one & eternal soulmate. The man has been depicted dancing amongst a thousand naked women. She is happily in love with her one, he is happily dancing with his thousand. They are both happy as they are. That is their intrinsic nature. Man & woman are not the same species. They are two sides of the same coin of duality, not equal and neither superior. They are just two different aspects of the same human manifestation. Sadly, Society doesn’t allow either to be themselves. What is the issue if a man laughs, jokes or befriends another woman? What is the issue if a woman loves her man every moment like it’s her last? Love is freedom. A conscious being is free and responsible at the same time because freedom and responsibility are again two sides of the same coin. They can exist together in an aware consciousness.
We fall in love with someone as they are and then all our effort is directed towards changing them to suit our expectations. In the process we slow poison our own love to death. His love just wants to make her laugh and her wounded self interprets it as being laughed at. She just wants to love him and his wounded self interprets it as smothering. The intention of both is Love, but both are wounded. She has been laughed at for her emotions, she thinks he doesn’t understand her and he hasn’t experienced pure love, he has learnt that vulnerability is weakness, he never feels good enough. Both want the other to heal them. The wounding is not in the other. The wounding is in the self. The other is not a screen to project our wounding onto. The other is a mirror, to reflect our own wounding to us. ‘I love her’ is the path to the new man; ‘but it ain’t enough’ is the blockage on the path. ‘I love him’ is the path to the new woman; ‘but he don’t get me’ is the blockage on the path. The other is a gateway to the self. All relating starts with the self & ends with the self. Giving unconditionally and receiving whatever we receive with gratitude and humility. Instead it is easier just to blame the other for our experiences. If every woman is suffering under the burden of a man made world, then every man is also carrying the same burden and suffering for all the women at the hands of a single woman. She isn’t releasing her own suppression per se but the suppression of the entire women collective. In truth the prisoner & the jailor are both in bondage. They both crave freedom and without freedom Love doesn’t exist. Love is Freedom.
It is a great misfortune for humankind that Man & Woman are unconsciously at a constant war with each other. They don’t understand each other and the saddest part is that they think they do. Their unconscious animosity towards the other doesn’t allow them to connect beyond the periphery, the physical and Union happens at the core. We can be attracted to a body, a face, a personality, an image; but we can only be in love with the essence of a being. The Essence is in the smallest things, the silent moments. The essence is in the smiles, the gestures, the expressions; but we are chasing the big bold moves, the grand declarations of love, the undeniable proof of acceptance by the other; our big expectations. The honeymoon phase of a relationship is all about the essence. After that is over, Love is over, and something else takes it’s place. Our great expectations! Love can last forever only if it is unconditional. God’s love is eternal because it is unconditional. God’s union is a union of equals, a union in awareness, a conscious union. One that has been born of understanding. A deep understanding requires a deep connection, that has the ability to awaken a deeper emotional intellect to feel and spiritual eyes to see. A connection not just of the mind & body, but a connection of the soul, the spirit. Spiritual love!
To be Continued ….